Take for example a recent trip to TJ Maxx/Home Goods with mom. We both got a couple of gift cards during the holidays and while mom was busy looking for a new suitcase, socks and a new top, I was over checking out silverware, cutting boards and food storage containers.
the new lock top containers
In all honesty, they are all things that we needed to replace. While packing for the move I wanted to get rid of items that were well past their prime which included the cheap silverware that was starting to rust, old containers that were stained from pasta sauce, and flimsy cutting mats that were scored from countless knife stokes. I had every intention of making the rounds over to the clothes section, but with the goal of better fitness and eating I want to hold off on buying clothes until I feel a little better about myself. I found myself doing the same thing at Target and walked out with some new everyday plates. I need to hold off on looking at any more home items until we get into a house and can finally unpack all of the wedding gifts that are sitting in storage.
Side note - Those storage containers above actually started a mini internal debate. I found them half off at Home Goods, but wanted to add a couple extra to the bunch. I found them on Amazon and spent a day debating back and forth on heading to another Home Goods or Ross to look for more or just order them at full price online. In the end the savings of finding the 3 exact sizes that I needed in the store did not outweigh the gas it would have cost to get there. No tax and free shipping on Amazon? Why yes that will make the decision easier.
Anyways, back to the habit. It's nothing new, it was around before (putting money towards the wedding instead of spending it on myself) and I'm sure it'll transition towards our children in the future. I don't think there is anything wrong with focusing on something or someone else, but every now and then I will have to remind myself that it's OK to pick up a new pair of shoes or a new outfit for myself.
Do you find yourself putting more towards someone or something other than yourself?